Dear Adina, what resonated most for me in this is the need to create psychological safety. I'm mainly seeing this through the lens of being a manager and mentor, and I'm aware that many people I work with are most likely dealing with trauma in some form or other
A skill all of us need to develop is to see our environment through others' eyes... Is our conduct trustworthy? Do we actually value our people? Is our word worth what we think it is?
As survivors we tend to be hyper sensitive to BS and deception. And, sadly, most corporate environments have ample supplies
Very important, indeed. Unfortunately with the pace of things these days and the amount of pressure leaders are under it's becoming harder and harder to pause and ask yourself those questions. I hope someone manages to crack that one soon.
The BS on the other hand is inexcusable, and people really need to cut it out!
You mentioned healthy relationship skills in the context of personal relationships, but I think they're essential in a work context, too. People can be so fearful of being perceived as incompetent, and it stops people admitting that they don't know how to do things, or owning up when things go wrong. Wouldn't the world be better if we all felt safe to admit that we are, actually, human?
Much, much better! But unless we build work environments where it's safe to admit you're wrong or clueless that problem isn't getting solved anytime soon... :(
Dear Adina, what resonated most for me in this is the need to create psychological safety. I'm mainly seeing this through the lens of being a manager and mentor, and I'm aware that many people I work with are most likely dealing with trauma in some form or other
A skill all of us need to develop is to see our environment through others' eyes... Is our conduct trustworthy? Do we actually value our people? Is our word worth what we think it is?
As survivors we tend to be hyper sensitive to BS and deception. And, sadly, most corporate environments have ample supplies
Very important, indeed. Unfortunately with the pace of things these days and the amount of pressure leaders are under it's becoming harder and harder to pause and ask yourself those questions. I hope someone manages to crack that one soon.
The BS on the other hand is inexcusable, and people really need to cut it out!
"Lots of survivors are excellent maskers..." Great point, and so true, Adina. Excellent post.
Thank you so much, Jan 🤗
You mentioned healthy relationship skills in the context of personal relationships, but I think they're essential in a work context, too. People can be so fearful of being perceived as incompetent, and it stops people admitting that they don't know how to do things, or owning up when things go wrong. Wouldn't the world be better if we all felt safe to admit that we are, actually, human?
Much, much better! But unless we build work environments where it's safe to admit you're wrong or clueless that problem isn't getting solved anytime soon... :(
"Trauma is not an illness, but a normal, instinctive and reversible adaptation to abnormal circumstances." Yes!
So much good information in this post.
Thank you so much, Christine - it means a lot!